Are you afraid of keeping the intimacy relationship with rich people?
Are you afraid to get intimate with your date? Brave these factors, whatever the reason, and embrace a loving relationship.
Do you want to connect with your partner, but can't stand another rejection? If a beautiful woman dates an old rich man,, it may be easier to establish a connection, they may not need any commitment. But if it's a serious relationship, it's likely to be rejected. It's normal to be rejected by strangers, so how do you quickly recover from the loss of being rejected?
For most of us, the trauma of a past relationship leaves a boundary in our hearts, designed to protect us from more pain. We stay safe, but we remain alone, often alone, and miss the opportunity to experience the beautiful, healing connection that only relationships can provide.
The damage to your relationship can be the result of years of dating and broken relationships. Or it could be a painful relationship that makes you vow never to trust again. Over time, you may find yourself becoming more closed, avoiding dates and opportunities for others to hurt you.
This means that your fear of intimacy and connection is rooted in your childhood, deep in your brain. This style is independent. Many people with avoidant attachment do crave an intimate relationship, but they struggle with intimacy and connection. They sometimes have an uncontrollable urge to distance themselves from their partner, especially if the partner wants more connection, commitment or intimacy. This makes building an intimate relationship challenging and confusing for both parties.
If you're one of these people and want to overcome it, here are some tips to help you:
A little dependency never hurt anyone.
In a culture that values independence and disdains dependence on others, you may be encouraged to do everything on your own. Of course, independence has great value in many aspects of our lives. However, for those who struggle with relationships and intimacy, you are likely to get this message from a very young age and may not even know how to rely on others in a healthy way. You may take great pride in your ability to stand on your own two feet. You may refuse to ask for help from others, or you may like to do everything alone.
This can isolate you from others and make your partner feel alienated and sometimes rejected. Science also tells us that as human beings, when we have a partner, we perform better, live longer, happier and healthier lives.
Yes, it's true, the dependency is actually a good thing.
Over time, you can help your brain heal by increasing self-awareness, learning your attachment style, or working with a therapist to help you heal, thereby bringing you closer to intimacy and connection.
Intimacy is not a four-letter word.
If you avoid intimacy, but you know you want a committed relationship, know that your brain will find ways to sabotage your success in a relationship. For example, you can subtly avoid the DTR(you know... The conversation that defines the relationship). Or you may find yourself ignoring texts or phone calls after a moment of physical or emotional intimacy. You may also have an opinion about marriage or commitment, which means a lack of freedom, or feeling like "old ball and chain."
By increasing your self-awareness, you can learn to see these problems as attachment impulses and work to heal and correct them so that you are inclined to make connections rather than avoid them.
If you find yourself pulling away from your partner after an intimate encounter, try to lean toward the discomfort. You know, your brain just wants to keep you safe with survival strategies it learned at an early age. Challenge yourself to realize that you may not need a childhood survival strategy because you are an adult and want a committed relationship.